Nearly a month has passed since Teagan and I got out and not one person on his side of the family has even asked about Teagan. It breaks my heart. I know I shouldn't care but I think about this beautiful little girl who hasn't done a thing wrong. 
 I know it is their loss and I know that since Teagan is too young to understand she won't be missing out but I just in my heart thought at least her Grandmother truly loved her.  Oh well i guess I was wrong... REALLY WRONG.
 Looking to the positive of things I can't believe the number of friends and family who have reached  out daily to see how my girl is doing and for that I am so truly grateful.
Teagan has not only touched my soul but it seems that everyone who has heard her story and seen her smile loves her and cares about her. I want to truly thank every one of you that has taken time out to be so encouraging.
Grandmom Riley
12/07/2009 04:04

I didn't think that you wanted any of us in her life, and at this point I am still too mad about the things that happened to see you.

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Grandmom Riley
12/07/2009 09:30

I guess that I also figured that since you removed all our pictures from "Teagan's Family" that you didn't ever consider us Teagan's family. You have hurt me enough over this past year, and I refuse to let you continue to have any power over me.

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Stacie
12/07/2009 17:00

You and Teagan have both touched me in many ways!!! You are the strongest mother and Miss Teagan is sooo lucky to have you. Keep your chin up Amanda!!! <3 <3

Stacie and Cameron

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Christie
12/07/2009 17:14

You are the strongest, most amazing woman in the world. You have overcome so many obstacles, and you deserve to be proud of yourself. If people are too blind to see the fact that their son/nephew/cousin/sibling could have killed you and THEIR granddaughter/neice/cousin etc. then there sick in the head. If my son ever did that, I'd be upset, but also KNOW that he was a danger to innocent people, and deserved it! Don't allow immature people to try and make you feel guilty-you did NOT deserve this, no matter what you did/said! No one deserves to be hurt in that way! Love you and Teagan! You both amaze me eveyday

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Grandmom Riley
12/07/2009 17:31

If Amanda had left when my son asked her to, nothing would have ever happened, BUT she was too stubborn to leave when he begged her to. Chew on that.

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Amanda
12/07/2009 18:01

Don't worry about it Amanda. Teagan has a wonderful loving mother she doesn't need crazies in her life. Plus you know we are all here for you.

BTW to the mother of the ex no matter what excuse you make for your son he hit a woman. More than once! Also when she was pregnant with his child. Grow up and stop trying to hurt Amanda.

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Lauren
12/07/2009 18:02

Amanda, I love you! You are so strong! Do what you need to do to take care of you and Teagan! And just because you apparently didn't leave when he asked does NOT make it okay for him to do the things he did to you. Anyone who thinks otherwise if validating abuse! You are a bigger person than any of them!! Cole and I love you and Teagan SOO much!!!!!

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Gramme
12/07/2009 18:09

I am ashamed of you, that you feel the need to take out your feeling on our innocent granddaughter. Your son abused my daugher physical, emotionally and verbally and she still tried to make thing work because she feel that there was a good man inside. I thank God everyday that she finally realized that as long as he was encourged to not grow up, he would never change.

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Christie
12/07/2009 18:16

If she would have left when her son asked her? So, are you saying this is her fault? If so, there is something wrong there! Do you understand how bad it sounds for you to be defending your son? Sometimes, you have to learn to cut the cord, and stop blaming others for YOUR CHILD's actions. I'm sure he told you different stories that weren't the truth, and it makes me ill that you could believe an ABUSER! Amanda was kind enough to WANT you to be a part of Teagan's life-and for the record, that was very generous in my eyes, I wouldn't allow someone who supports abuse in my child's life!

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JL
12/07/2009 18:49

To Grandmom Riley,
YOU DONT DESERVE TO BE IN TEAGANS LIFE! YOUR SON ABUSED THEM AND YOU'RE STANDING UP FOR HIM?! WHAT SORRY EXCUSE FOR A MOTHER ARE YOU?! GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR CNT AND STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THE SORRY EXCUSE OF A MAN THAT IS YOUR SON! IF YOU CARED ONE BIT FOR THAT CHILD YOU WOULD NEVER EVER EXCUSE HIS ACTIONS, MAYBE IF YOU CARED SO MUCH YOU'D DO MORE TO BE IN HER LIFE, RATHER THAN YOU KNOW BEING A BITCH AND BLAMING ALL THIS ON AMANDA. FUCK YOU AND THE HORSE YOU ROAD IN ON. YOUR LUCKY IF YOU EVER HEAR ABOUT HER, EVER AGAIN. YOU DONT DESERVE THEM. YOUR A PATHETIC EXCUSE OF A WOMAN

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Resa
12/07/2009 18:55

first i would to address grandma riley, im going to assume that your beat your mom which made you think it was okay with your husband abusing you? which in turn is the outcome of your son beatin on the mother of his child? so maybe instead of pointing fingers at the mother of YOUR granddaughter for WHATEVER your excuse maybe you should applaude her for saving herself and saving Teagan from possibly walking the same path and having to endure the same abuse you should be thanking god that Amanda is strong enough to break the cycle of abuse. you should thank god it didnt go further and that you still have a grand daughter to hug and hold and kiss and watch grow because things couldve turned out really really bad and instead of having misplaced anger at Amanda you could be mourning the loss of them all. now Amanda you already know i think you rock your amazing and strong and if they dont see that and appreciate what you did for Teagan then its them that lose out u & Teagan are better off. im proud of you ~resa

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Emr2001
12/07/2009 18:59

"If Amanda had left when my son asked her to, nothing would have ever happened, BUT she was too stubborn to leave when he begged her to. Chew on that." WTF??? That doesn't even REMOTELY justify beating a pregnant woman!

Amanda, just ignore the abuser in the room. It is classic abuse to blame the victim. People who need to blame the victim are probably projecting b/c they can't handle the truth about something in themselves (like they raised an abuser???). If it were me, those people would never see or hear about my kid again, and that wouldn't be the child's loss in this case.

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MrMrsKnight
12/07/2009 19:21

Great excuse:
"I'm sorry Mr. Cop, I only hit her because she didn't leave. Isn't THAT okay?"
What a joke!
I don't kow you so well, Amanda. But I've grown to love your little one and know of your battles to raise her in a good, safe, loving enviroment. I admire that!

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12/07/2009 22:18

"Chew on that."

Perhaps you should chew on the fact that you are just as abusive as your son. Emotional abuse is just as destructive as the swing of your son's crippling hand. From your posts, it's quite obvious the half-wit did not fall far from the tree.

There is no excuse for abuse.

Every day, more than 27,000 children in this country are exposed to domestic violence.

Every day, a child somewhere in your community lives in fear.

Shame on you for enabling and excusing abuse.

Shame on you, "Grandmom" Riley, for making Teagan a statistic.

Shame on you.

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KJsMOM
12/08/2009 08:10

Amanda, You did the right thing. My dad use to beat on my mom and she had to leave before he killed her. ANY MOTHER who is alright with their son beating on someone needs their a_ _ beaten!! I have a son and let me EVER find out he is beating on someone! I will BEAT the LIVING snot out of him!! But you know what Amanda. She is probably scared of her son. And her husband probably beats on her too. Her son never learned respect and love because he never saw it. You are a GREAT role model for your LO like my mom was for me. I was ALMOST in an abusive relationship. Because of my mom I knew what to look for and how to get out. Now your daughter will know how if it ever happens to her. If you would have stayed, you would have taught your daughter that same bad habit. Your ex's mother better be glad it was you he dated. If it was me, she would be visiting him in the burned ward because I would have cooked some grits and gave it to him! Girl watch you some Madea (Tylor Perry)!

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Christi
12/08/2009 08:57

Grandmom Riley, it is truly ashame that you would even suggest that this is Amandas fault. Maybe if you raised your son to respect women and control his temper none of this would have happened. What happened to taking responsibility for your own actions? He is a grown man. It was HIS decision to raise his fists. If he thought she shouldn't have been there HE could have left. There are hundreds of possibilities that COULD have happened without resorting to violence yet he chose to hit her. What if he would have hit Teagan too? Would you blame a baby? Do you have your head shoved in the sand that far that you have to make excuses for him? No one said you didn't have to love him because he IS your son and nothing will ever change that. But you do NOT have to stand by and justify his actions. And to not be in your granddaughters life because you are "mad"? That is disgusting. You are the situation out on a beautiful harmless little girl. Fortunately, she is young enough not to remember your pettiness. She has plenty of people who will love her without placing her parents faults on her. SHE will not be the one missing out. YOU will be the one that lost the love and joy of knowing a granddaughter. Chew on THAT!

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Sarah
12/08/2009 09:49

Amanda and Teagan, I am so sorry for what you've been through but just realize that you have nothing to appologize for. You are both finally safe and it is Teagan and yourself who matter. Everything else is just everything else.

And to grandma: as a mother, I can understand that you will love your son no matter what, but this is insane. nothing justifies a man hitting a woman. EVER. And the only reason he did so is NOT because Amanda was stubborn and made him do it, it's because he wasn't raised to act like a civil human being. If any WOMAN is to blame for his actions, it's his mother who didn't teach him respect. chew on that

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jenmex
12/08/2009 12:58

Amanda you know that many people support and love you and Teagan and that's what matters. She will not grow up with abusive people around her be it mentally or physically.
That in itself is an achievement and says it all about whata great Mum you are.
God bless.

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Laura2200
12/10/2009 12:42

Amanda: I know you continue to inspire many women who hear your story - you are a prime example for your daughter of what she should aspire to...Thank you for sharing your story with everyone and having enough strength to stand up for yourself and your daughter and abused women.

Grandmom Riley: I don't believe that you have the audacity to call yourself a grandmother after how you have treated your granddaughter. I really hope you have read all of these responses and begun to seriously rethink your accusations. I truly hope that you find the truth of everyone's statements. Until you do so, you do not deserve the title of "Grandmom" in anyone's book.

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